“That I did not fail was due in part to patience…” – Jane Goodall
An important aspect of coping with the life I choose to lead is patience. If you rush, in some way you will fail, whether in your own eyes or someone else’s. I always thought I had an impeccable amount of patience growing up. I was good with children, they did not bother me like they did others. Dealing effectively with children involves patience and they love to test your patience. I thought it was a good sign that I would be ready for adult life…
I think the greatest test of patience for both men and women is pregnancy. You find out so early on that you’re going to have a baby. There’s a life growing inside of you. First, you have to be patient for the test to tell you that yes you are pregnant. Second, unless you’re very lucky, its the patience to deal with the few weeks of nausea and vomiting (for me unfortunately it never ended). Then, waiting until your first ultrasound or for the baby to be large enough to hear the heartbeat. Then finally it starts to move, first like little gas bubbles and eventually acrobatics and hiccups. My daughter got the hiccups daily, right before she went to sleep. This tradition actually continues today. Then finally the months go on and on. The baby starts to run out of room, mommy is uncomfortable, daddy wants to be involved somehow but can’t and the days get longer and longer as you wait for nature to take its course. Labor is the final test of patience, especially for daddy since there’s not much he can do. I honestly think that the patience required for pregnancy is just another step in preparing us for what we’ll need as parents. I have a 3 year old now and honestly I think this is the most patience that has ever been required of me, but I don’t mind…eventually anyway. There are definitely times when I want to pull my hair out, or scream, or I reach for a glass of wine or whiskey after she goes to bed, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
It’s the good things in life that take a while to accomplish. Those tasks that require patience are the most important and there’s no sense in trying to rush them. Rushing never leads anywhere good. Take your time and enjoy life; enjoy the moments that you would normally ignore or pass by. That’s where the beauty is, in the little things that take a long time to come around.